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Sunday, January 13, 2008

Post-Date Reflections ....

I went on a date last night. That guy is a very interesting person, worldly and knowledgeable, articulate and well-groomed. He drives a fancy car and stays in a fancy place. He is a chatty and vivacious person. This is one of the few times I went out with a guy and did not need to talk much, as he was doing most of the talking.

We went for dinner, and wanted to catch a movie, but in the end the tickets were all sold out. It was quite a relief because I was not really in the mood, so I cut short the date and he drove me home. Throughout the dinner, somehow my heart was not in it, as I kept thinking of someone else.

I know I should not compare, and besides yesterday was the first time I was meeting him, but I really cannot help it. I started thinking of the first time he and I went out, the good times we had, and I just could not help comparing.

That guy asked if I would like to continue seeing him, and he would stop seeing others. Honestly, I have no idea what to tell him. He will be away serving the country for the next three weeks, so maybe by the time he is back, things may change?

The guy is decent and normal, he knows how to treat a lady well, how to let her have a good time and feel comfortable. But I admit it is my problem, because I wish I was out with someone else instead. I know if I was out with him, I would behave in a much different way.

I cannot go out with someone if I end up thinking of someone else. It is just unfair and unethical. I realise one thing - I cannot get him out of my mind! And I also realise another thing - I do not need fancy cars and a fancy place, nor a well-groomed and worldly person, not even a chatty person.

People like these are interesting and fun to hang out with. But what I need is someone down to earth and simple, and enjoys the simple things in life, someone who is articulate yet introverted, a good listener. Someone who can relate to and connect with me, who shares my interests and passions. A normal car and simple apartment will suffice.

My brothers were surprised that I was home before 10:30pm from a date. So I told them if one's heart was in it, one would have a very good time and time would fly and you hoped time would standstill, reluctant to part after a date. But if one's heart is not in it, one will hardly wait for the date to end and to just go home quickly.

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