What is up with guys who can never make up their minds? Do they think that feelings can be trivialised, that people can turn on and off and on again at their fancies? Honestly, if you say you want to be with someone, then stick to it.
Do not suddenly say want to be with a person, then when things are going well, suddenly change your mind and not even keep in contact. And just when the person is getting the life back on track, suddenly want to be together again.
I am not talking about couples who break up, then cannot forget each other, so get back together again, with stronger feelings and bonds the next time round. I am also not talking about people who started off seeing each other, then stopped seeing each other, then somehow managed to be together in the end. Well, if it is fated, all will come to pass.
I am talking about how some guys who were so enthusiastic about the girl, so serious about her, found favour in her parents, showed her to his parents and friends, talked about buying a place together and when would be a good time to get married, then suddenly told the girl that he did not have that kind of feelings for her so they should just call it quits.
Okay, so they called it quits. Both were alright, and moved on. Both tried to find other dates and someone more suitable. Yet after a while, the guy came running back and told the girl that actually he did feel something for her, so can he have another chance?
Now, if you are the girl, how will you feel? Was the guy playing with her feelings all these while? Did the guy expect that she was someone who could suddenly turn her feelings on and off just like that?
I do not know about others, but when I decide to continue seeing a guy on my own accord not his, I do it with the intention that he is potential enough to carve a future with, because honestly I do not want to just try out and see how anymore.
If the guy is the one who wants to continue seeing me, only if I feel the same way or if I find him potential enough, I will agree to continue seeing him. Otherwise normally after just one or two meetups, I will drop him, and the most is the online chats and messages once in a while.
So if I ever give a guy a chance, it means he has the qualities I look for in the first place. So in that case, why does the guy not want to be committed or decisive enough to make the decision on whether he wants or do not want?
If he feels we cannot be together because of some reason, then I rather he tell me from the beginning. Do not mislead me and then just drop me, and worse, come running back after a while because he feels ready to commit. I hate people playing with my feelings!
Do not suddenly say want to be with a person, then when things are going well, suddenly change your mind and not even keep in contact. And just when the person is getting the life back on track, suddenly want to be together again.
I am not talking about couples who break up, then cannot forget each other, so get back together again, with stronger feelings and bonds the next time round. I am also not talking about people who started off seeing each other, then stopped seeing each other, then somehow managed to be together in the end. Well, if it is fated, all will come to pass.
I am talking about how some guys who were so enthusiastic about the girl, so serious about her, found favour in her parents, showed her to his parents and friends, talked about buying a place together and when would be a good time to get married, then suddenly told the girl that he did not have that kind of feelings for her so they should just call it quits.
Okay, so they called it quits. Both were alright, and moved on. Both tried to find other dates and someone more suitable. Yet after a while, the guy came running back and told the girl that actually he did feel something for her, so can he have another chance?
Now, if you are the girl, how will you feel? Was the guy playing with her feelings all these while? Did the guy expect that she was someone who could suddenly turn her feelings on and off just like that?
I do not know about others, but when I decide to continue seeing a guy on my own accord not his, I do it with the intention that he is potential enough to carve a future with, because honestly I do not want to just try out and see how anymore.
If the guy is the one who wants to continue seeing me, only if I feel the same way or if I find him potential enough, I will agree to continue seeing him. Otherwise normally after just one or two meetups, I will drop him, and the most is the online chats and messages once in a while.
So if I ever give a guy a chance, it means he has the qualities I look for in the first place. So in that case, why does the guy not want to be committed or decisive enough to make the decision on whether he wants or do not want?
If he feels we cannot be together because of some reason, then I rather he tell me from the beginning. Do not mislead me and then just drop me, and worse, come running back after a while because he feels ready to commit. I hate people playing with my feelings!
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