Third parties have always been viewed negatively by a lot of people. Actually, "third party" encompasses a lot of things. Technically speaking, a "third party" is anyone that is outside of the parties involved.
Third parties can mean an external party at work. For instance, in my job I deal with contractual documents. Besides the two parties involved executing the documents, there will be an external or neutral person to bear witness to the signatures.
Third party can also be someone in one's social circle. One example can be a friend tries to set up two friends. This mutual friend will then act as a matchmaker, a third party, to introduce the two to each other. Something like what those dating agencies are doing.
A third party can also be used in conflict. Any conflict that arises through work or life will normally be put before a mitigator or arbitrator, where this person will then try to resolve all differences amicably and peacefully. Just like if a group of friends fall out with each other, sometimes someone will try to play peacemaker to prevent further misunderstandings.
Thus, third parties are not all to be viewed in a negative way. I guess whenever someone mentions "third party", people will automatically tune to a third party in a relationship. Normally, people's opinions that third parties in a relationship are ladies who will go all out to get the guy, even though he may have a girlfriend, fiancee, wife. These ladies are labelled as "sluts", "vixens", "shameless", etc.
Why so, I wonder? Are the ladies always to blame for anything? Can it not be that the guy himself went to fool around, despite being not single, and the lady fell for him without knowing his full status because he did not tell her, and by the time she found out it was too late? Can she really be blamed in this case?
Ladies in this situation will always be scolded for being a homewrecker. But what about the guy? How come he can get off free from blame when he was the one that started the whole mess in the first place? And somehow those guys who stepped into another person's relationship to get the girl never get blamed; rather they get praised by their buddies for being brave to fight for what they want. So unfair!
I guess the worst feeling is falling for your close friend's partner. On one hand, you will never think of betraying your friend (those who did are not true friends in the first place), but on the other hand, you pine for the partner and wonder why your friend got all the luck. Then you see them all hugging and kissing when you go out together and you feel so terrible and wish it was you doing that instead.
Close friendships have been known to end because of a guy (or girl). Two best guy pals have been known to fall out over a girl they both like, same for girls. I believe it is only the truest of friends that will never allow the guy or girl to get in between the friendship. So either they both give up, or they let the person involved make the choice and give complete blessings.
It is never easy being a third party in a relationship, in whichever way. All the more so for an unrequited and possibly impossible love. There are all kinds of people in the world. Some will choose to just be quiet and suffer in silence, some will go all out to fight, and some will just disappear so as not to be involved.
Whichever option, it is never easy because either way, someone will be hurt. If one chose to give up, he / she will be the one that is hurt, especially since he / she sees the loved one with the friend. If one chose to fight, then the friend and possibly the loved one may be hurt and get into an awkward situation. There is no win-win situation in this case.
Third parties can mean an external party at work. For instance, in my job I deal with contractual documents. Besides the two parties involved executing the documents, there will be an external or neutral person to bear witness to the signatures.
Third party can also be someone in one's social circle. One example can be a friend tries to set up two friends. This mutual friend will then act as a matchmaker, a third party, to introduce the two to each other. Something like what those dating agencies are doing.
A third party can also be used in conflict. Any conflict that arises through work or life will normally be put before a mitigator or arbitrator, where this person will then try to resolve all differences amicably and peacefully. Just like if a group of friends fall out with each other, sometimes someone will try to play peacemaker to prevent further misunderstandings.
Thus, third parties are not all to be viewed in a negative way. I guess whenever someone mentions "third party", people will automatically tune to a third party in a relationship. Normally, people's opinions that third parties in a relationship are ladies who will go all out to get the guy, even though he may have a girlfriend, fiancee, wife. These ladies are labelled as "sluts", "vixens", "shameless", etc.
Why so, I wonder? Are the ladies always to blame for anything? Can it not be that the guy himself went to fool around, despite being not single, and the lady fell for him without knowing his full status because he did not tell her, and by the time she found out it was too late? Can she really be blamed in this case?
Ladies in this situation will always be scolded for being a homewrecker. But what about the guy? How come he can get off free from blame when he was the one that started the whole mess in the first place? And somehow those guys who stepped into another person's relationship to get the girl never get blamed; rather they get praised by their buddies for being brave to fight for what they want. So unfair!
I guess the worst feeling is falling for your close friend's partner. On one hand, you will never think of betraying your friend (those who did are not true friends in the first place), but on the other hand, you pine for the partner and wonder why your friend got all the luck. Then you see them all hugging and kissing when you go out together and you feel so terrible and wish it was you doing that instead.
Close friendships have been known to end because of a guy (or girl). Two best guy pals have been known to fall out over a girl they both like, same for girls. I believe it is only the truest of friends that will never allow the guy or girl to get in between the friendship. So either they both give up, or they let the person involved make the choice and give complete blessings.
It is never easy being a third party in a relationship, in whichever way. All the more so for an unrequited and possibly impossible love. There are all kinds of people in the world. Some will choose to just be quiet and suffer in silence, some will go all out to fight, and some will just disappear so as not to be involved.
Whichever option, it is never easy because either way, someone will be hurt. If one chose to give up, he / she will be the one that is hurt, especially since he / she sees the loved one with the friend. If one chose to fight, then the friend and possibly the loved one may be hurt and get into an awkward situation. There is no win-win situation in this case.
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