Meaning What You Say, And Saying What You Mean

Today is K's birthday. Happy birthday, my friend! Finally, you have graduated from the twenties' range! Not to fear, I am not that far behind as well. :-(

I cannot understand the way some girls function. Okay, perhaps "understand" is not the right word since I do understand, just that I do not really approve of the way they think and behave. Why is it that they say one thing but mean another? And why do they have to go round in circles, expecting others to know what they mean? (See, I put down my own sex too, so stop accusing me of being a sexist!)

A friend said that last Saturday, she was supposed to go out with her boyfriend. They have not met for a few weeks since he was away on a business trip. Unfortunately on Friday, he fell ill. So she told him to rest at home and not to meet her.

He took her word for it and really did not meet her. He left again for another overseas meeting on Monday. Needless to say, she was livid. She kept saying that if he really loves her and sincere to her, he will find some time to meet her since he was going away so soon again.

I told her that she was the one who told him to stay home and rest. Besides, he was sick, she cannot just expect him to run around with her when he was not feeling well. Just too bad he happened to be sick at the wrong time.

She said that she would sound like a bitch if she insisted he met up with her, but on the other hand, she wished he could take the initiative to offer to meet her instead of just staying home and rest.

Now, how would he know what she want if she does not say anything? To which she said he should know how she thinks by now. Hmmmm..... Still, I told her just tell him she misses him and want to meet him instead of telling him something then meaning another.

But anyway, if he is sick, instead of him going out to meet her, she can always go to his place and visit him or take care of him. That is what a girlfriend should do, is it not? They will still be meeting each other, and they can still spend time together.

Another friend just blew up at her fiance. He was watching one too many sports games and she badly wanted to talk to him on their housing renovation. She told him to finish his television programs, but after that, blew up at him for neglecting her for some "stupid sports show again".

As far as the guy was concerned, she told him to finish watching first. But as far as the girl was concerned, things need not be spelt out all the time. The guy should take the initiative to show some concern or sensitivity towards her.

Well.... what can I say? Most guys are dense (sorry if I offend you, guys), as in they cannot take hints. One has to tell them straight before they can know what you want. But then some guys are really so dense that even if you tell them straight they still do not know what you want.

But on the other hand, if the couple is in a relationship, there should not be any barriers in speaking your mind. After all, it is each other's duty in a relationship to be emotionally and physically there for each other.

So if the girl wants something, can she not speak up instead of saying one thing and then meaning another, and getting angry at the guy for listening to her in the first place? But I guess girls are funny by nature, which is why guys always complain they can never understand how a woman function.