I have come across many people who, for some reason, do not feel ready to be in a relationship or marriage and then they start to do things to make the partner angry in a bid to get rid of the partners. I always wonder why they do that, until someone told me that they are doing that so the partner will not suffer.
Now I wonder if that is just being noble or stupid? In the first place, if A is with B, then I believe A should have known what B is like and accepts B the way he / she is, otherwise what is the use of even starting with anyone? So if B feels that he / she is not meeting up to standards and feel A is better off with someone else and B starts behaving in a way that is totally intolerable to A, is B then being noble or just plain stupid?
If it is just a one-sided feeling of B that he / she feels A is not happy, why did he / she not talk it out with A? How would he / she knows that A is feeling the same way? So if B chooses to be "noble" and just disappear simply because he / she does not wishes to be a burden anymore, is it not a very cowardly and stupid way? How would A feel then? Has B ever considered the feelings that A may feel angry, disappointed, deserted, and wondered what happened in the first place?
Hence if a person feels stifled or lost in a relationship, is it not better to talk it out and clarify with the other person rather than pull a disappearing act or behave in a way to chase the other person away? Afterall, if one cannot even talk to the partner, then who else can one talk to?
Now I wonder if that is just being noble or stupid? In the first place, if A is with B, then I believe A should have known what B is like and accepts B the way he / she is, otherwise what is the use of even starting with anyone? So if B feels that he / she is not meeting up to standards and feel A is better off with someone else and B starts behaving in a way that is totally intolerable to A, is B then being noble or just plain stupid?
If it is just a one-sided feeling of B that he / she feels A is not happy, why did he / she not talk it out with A? How would he / she knows that A is feeling the same way? So if B chooses to be "noble" and just disappear simply because he / she does not wishes to be a burden anymore, is it not a very cowardly and stupid way? How would A feel then? Has B ever considered the feelings that A may feel angry, disappointed, deserted, and wondered what happened in the first place?
Hence if a person feels stifled or lost in a relationship, is it not better to talk it out and clarify with the other person rather than pull a disappearing act or behave in a way to chase the other person away? Afterall, if one cannot even talk to the partner, then who else can one talk to?
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