Last week I was really mad. Sometime ago, I mentioned a female friend of my guy, who went to his place during Christmas and became so chummy with his parents. Then he called her up to tell her off, and then since then, she had been ignoring me and talking so much to him each time we met her.
We have not met her for a long time. The last was in February at a party, where again, she spent the whole time ignoring me and talking so much to him, "interrogating" him on his whereabouts and his happenings in front of me, without taking me into account that I was around. Anyway, after that, I tried to ignore her.
Until last Thursday. A friend sent me a message, asking me to check out that girl's Facebook account. I do not have her account, because I tried to add her but for some reason she did not want to add me. My friend told me I need not go into her account, just take a look at her picture will do.
So I clicked on my guy's profile and scanned through his friend's list until I came to her. And a rude shock met me. She changed her profile picture to a clubbing picture which she and my guy took some time back! Yes, we were not together at that point in time, but why must she put up the picture of both of them together? Does she not know he is attached?
The issue is not the photo. I take photos with guys too. I do not mind even if they tag me or I tag them. If she had tagged him instead in the photo, it is fine. But if I know the guy is attached, I would not put up any photo which I took with him, because that is being very insensitive to the girlfriend, and it is very inappropriate on my part too. If the guy put up a photo of him and his girlfriend on his profile, then how can I, as a female friend, put up the photo of both of us together on my profile for all and dandy to see?
In any case, below her profile picture are the words, "My Facebook account is only restricted to people I know, by request only." So people have to request for her to add them, and it is only through her choice whether to add them or not? I do not know about anyone else, but neither me nor most people I know view "friendship" this way.
Which is why I was really angry that day. I feel a person should at least respect a fellow human being. Whether you like the person or not is another issue, but at least the appropriate respect should be there. As I said, I am not the kind who tell my boyfriend he is forbidden from socialising with his friends, but I really fear I may resort to that if she continues her antics!
We have not met her for a long time. The last was in February at a party, where again, she spent the whole time ignoring me and talking so much to him, "interrogating" him on his whereabouts and his happenings in front of me, without taking me into account that I was around. Anyway, after that, I tried to ignore her.
Until last Thursday. A friend sent me a message, asking me to check out that girl's Facebook account. I do not have her account, because I tried to add her but for some reason she did not want to add me. My friend told me I need not go into her account, just take a look at her picture will do.
So I clicked on my guy's profile and scanned through his friend's list until I came to her. And a rude shock met me. She changed her profile picture to a clubbing picture which she and my guy took some time back! Yes, we were not together at that point in time, but why must she put up the picture of both of them together? Does she not know he is attached?
The issue is not the photo. I take photos with guys too. I do not mind even if they tag me or I tag them. If she had tagged him instead in the photo, it is fine. But if I know the guy is attached, I would not put up any photo which I took with him, because that is being very insensitive to the girlfriend, and it is very inappropriate on my part too. If the guy put up a photo of him and his girlfriend on his profile, then how can I, as a female friend, put up the photo of both of us together on my profile for all and dandy to see?
In any case, below her profile picture are the words, "My Facebook account is only restricted to people I know, by request only." So people have to request for her to add them, and it is only through her choice whether to add them or not? I do not know about anyone else, but neither me nor most people I know view "friendship" this way.
Which is why I was really angry that day. I feel a person should at least respect a fellow human being. Whether you like the person or not is another issue, but at least the appropriate respect should be there. As I said, I am not the kind who tell my boyfriend he is forbidden from socialising with his friends, but I really fear I may resort to that if she continues her antics!
2 comments:
I think that girl is extremely insensitive to use a pic of her and your guy as her FB profile pic. She could have just used a pic of herself alone. But I think she's doing it to spite you.
That's what my friends told me too. But I guess some people just do things without thinking or considering the effects of their actions.
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