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Monday, November 22, 2010

What Constitutes Proper Upbringing?

Lately there seems to be an influx of problems involving youths. Just when five youths hacked another youth to death on Halloween night, in a matter of weeks, there have been more youth slashing incidents in two parts of the country. When interviewed, there are youths who said they bring knives out "just in case". Just in case of what? In case they do need to kill someone?

Last week there was another incident involving a scholar. Due to his outstanding grades and curricular activities, he won a Ministry of Education scholarship to England to further his studies. But he was caught on campus surfing pornography involving children as young as six, indicating pedophilia tendencies. A background search indicated that he was caught peeping at girls in his school's toilet before, but because he had been punished, the school never put it on record, hoping he would change.

Now because of this, his scholarship would be terminated. His future is as good as gone. I am not sure if he would be charged since in general, the world frowns heavily upon pedophiles. One can commit murder but once one molests or rapes a little kid, he would be ostracised by everyone, even the hardcore prisoners themselves.

All these incidents made me rather sad indeed. What are the kids coming to that they think it right to do as they please? I wonder is it because of the lack of discipline, or the lack of control? Or is it the parents themselves simply have no time to monitor the kids, and as long as the kids do okay in school that is all that matters?

It makes me wonder, will I be able to cope if I ever do have kids in the future? How will my own children turn out to be? What is the success of a parent? People always say the success of a child is on how he turns out in life, but would that not be the success of a parent if he / she is able to bring a child up properly?

What, then, constitutes a proper upbringing? Why would two kids from exactly the same family and upbringing turn out different? Is it really to do with the parents or just the character and personality of the child?

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