Lilypie

Wednesday, May 23, 2007

Weirdos In Cyberspace

I am starting to realise that most of women's problems are caused by men. No I am not being sexist here, but think about it, how many women give their all in love and relationships, only to have the men take them for granted, never appreciate them and still think the women are not doing enough to satisfy?

Just like this bridal forum which my best friend and I were looking at. We initially wanted to get tips for her wedding, so went there to take a look. But the interesting snippets we came across made us wonder just how do men live their lives when they were still single and under their parents' roofs?

It was supposed to be a forum for brides and brides-to-be, yet the discussion threads became like a relationship problem advisor (which is still alright), to parents-in-law problems, to husband soliciting for sex! It was the last one that got my attention and made my blood boil.

This guy claimed he loves his wife and kids, yet complained that his wife could not satisfy him so he could not stand it, thus asking for sex online, for anyone, whether married or not, or getting married. He said he did that because he was reluctant to go to prostitutes as it would be like "cheapening" himself.

So going to a professional is like "cheapening" oneself, but soliciting for sex using one's real name and then sleep around for free with no strings attached is not?! How is he being faithful to his wife by doing that, and he claims he loves his wife?! I hope when his wife ever gets to see that, she will kick him out and never let him come back!

Needless to say, many people in the forum scolded him for doing that. Yet he still had the cheek to say that he had not done anything wrong, why must everyone chide him, the forum sucks if people do not allow freedom of expression. This is nothing to do with freedom of expression whatsoever, but if it is going to be a bride's forum, how can anyone, let alone a married man, solicit for sex online?

Guys like these normally never believe they are at fault. Just like some weirdos I came across. Send emails so many times a day just because there is no reply, send messages so many times a day to ask about what I am doing. I am not the girlfriend, why must I report my whereabouts every second to them? Even none of my boyfriends sent me messages so frequently every hour. Worst thing is if there is no reply, the messages and emails start bombarding so many times until my inbox gets jammed.

Why would any guy think that they can get a girl this way? If anything, they will only push her further away by being so pushy, because the basic courtesy of respect and patience is already not there. If a girl never replies, sending more messages and emails will definitely not work! If anything, that will backfire as she will get totally pissed.

And what makes people think that by sending an email saying how distant the girl is, and how her actions are affecting him is going to help matters?! Girls also need space and privacy, and the more guys try to intrude on their space, the more she will pull out. Then guys will start wondering why the girl is such a hard nut to crack. Why not examine themselves first before pushing the blame to others? Do these guys think girls all have to fall at their feet?

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