Righting My Wrongs

I used to think people do not understand me enough, and I get rather offended if they try to do things which I do not like. I would flare up if people irritate me, despite knowing my likes and dislikes.

But upon realization, I start to think : perhaps I am the one who is not understanding enough. Perhaps I am the one who does not understand others, so I cannot ask of others to understand me.

If I truly understand a person, I will not feel so offended or hurt by his / her actions. I used to think why are some people so petty, that they can stay angry over a minor thing for weeks. But a minor thing to me can be a major thing to them.

I used to think that once I apologise all will be well. But sometimes even after I apologise, the person still remains angry. In this case, is it a case of misunderstanding or the person is really just petty?

I start to reflect on myself as a person, as a girlfriend, as a daughter, as a friend. Often I have felt frustrated over how my parents treated me, how I felt neglected by others. Perhaps I am the one not putting in enough effort.

Maybe I am the one not being flexible enough, not being understanding and reasonable enough. Perhaps I want others to follow the way I do things, which will be a big nightmare as in this case, I will morph into someone I hate.

Hence from now on, I will stop being so judgmental and inflexible. I will let others function the way they do instead of imposing my way on others. I will try to be more accepting of others’ differences.

Hopefully in this way, others can also accept me more as a person, instead of focusing on the wrongs I have done or not done.