Nobody is perfect. That is why we are all sinners. The thing is, if we know our own faults and weaknesses, we should at least try to make up in other areas. For instance, I may say I have a certain checklist for the kind of person I am looking for, but if I really have strong feelings for someone, it does not matter even if he does not fulfil any.
He can be lowly educated, in a menial job, earning minimal income, no inclination to upgrade, middle-aged and uncouth, but at least make it up by being nice, caring, reliable and committed. Like I know I can be too loud and whiny at times, so I try to make it up by being caring, generous and committed.
Sad to say, many people cannot even achieve that. They are not on par in many ways, yet they do not even meet the bare minimum of being nice! By this, I am referring to both genders. It is like they are always blaming people for being demanding, but they never look within themselves and see what their own problems are.
For instance, there are some women who are plain looking with a loud sense of fashion, yet think they are so gorgeous and try to act cute even when they are already in their late thirties. They still play mind games with men, expecting the men to chase them with romance and still play hard to get. The thing is if they are interested in going out with a man, then go ahead! Do not need to be so wishy-washy! If they are not interested, then just say no!
There are men who are plump, plain-looking, short and have no sense of dressing and behave in such a rude and uncouth way, yet they want a woman who is tall, elegant, gorgeous, yet at the same time submissive, intelligent, educated and soft-spoken. The thing is, if the woman is really tall, elegant, gorgeous, intelligent and educated, chances are she will not be the submissive type, and secondly, he will not be her type. Yet these are the kinds of people who then wonder why no one wants to be with them!
I have come across men who have no inclination to better themselves, yet they blame the women for being more capable. Case in point, my mum was interviewing a series of candidates who graduated from university last year. It was a bad time for job seekers. The girls grabbed whatever part-time or temporary jobs they could find. The guys, because they were not able to find any job, just stayed home, slept, surfed the net and essentially bumming around.
To an interviewer or prospective employer, it is a very bad impression, because the prospective employer will deem the candidate as not being hungry enough for a job. After all, if one can just bum around for half a year without doing anything, chances are he does not need to care about his living expenses. So they rather give the job to someone who needs it more, ie someone who takes on anything just to earn money.
That may or may not be the case, and it is unfair to judge just on this basis, but the fact is that things we do create impressions on people. Like this new forum I joined, the ladies are all capable and still upgrading themselves, yet the men are all so quiet. But the men still comment how come the ladies are so capable, will they not scare off men?
Well, if the man gets scared off, then it tells a lot about his self esteem, maturity and confidence, is it not? If he himself has no inclination to better himself, does he expect the whole world to remain stagnant with him? No way!
He can be lowly educated, in a menial job, earning minimal income, no inclination to upgrade, middle-aged and uncouth, but at least make it up by being nice, caring, reliable and committed. Like I know I can be too loud and whiny at times, so I try to make it up by being caring, generous and committed.
Sad to say, many people cannot even achieve that. They are not on par in many ways, yet they do not even meet the bare minimum of being nice! By this, I am referring to both genders. It is like they are always blaming people for being demanding, but they never look within themselves and see what their own problems are.
For instance, there are some women who are plain looking with a loud sense of fashion, yet think they are so gorgeous and try to act cute even when they are already in their late thirties. They still play mind games with men, expecting the men to chase them with romance and still play hard to get. The thing is if they are interested in going out with a man, then go ahead! Do not need to be so wishy-washy! If they are not interested, then just say no!
There are men who are plump, plain-looking, short and have no sense of dressing and behave in such a rude and uncouth way, yet they want a woman who is tall, elegant, gorgeous, yet at the same time submissive, intelligent, educated and soft-spoken. The thing is, if the woman is really tall, elegant, gorgeous, intelligent and educated, chances are she will not be the submissive type, and secondly, he will not be her type. Yet these are the kinds of people who then wonder why no one wants to be with them!
I have come across men who have no inclination to better themselves, yet they blame the women for being more capable. Case in point, my mum was interviewing a series of candidates who graduated from university last year. It was a bad time for job seekers. The girls grabbed whatever part-time or temporary jobs they could find. The guys, because they were not able to find any job, just stayed home, slept, surfed the net and essentially bumming around.
To an interviewer or prospective employer, it is a very bad impression, because the prospective employer will deem the candidate as not being hungry enough for a job. After all, if one can just bum around for half a year without doing anything, chances are he does not need to care about his living expenses. So they rather give the job to someone who needs it more, ie someone who takes on anything just to earn money.
That may or may not be the case, and it is unfair to judge just on this basis, but the fact is that things we do create impressions on people. Like this new forum I joined, the ladies are all capable and still upgrading themselves, yet the men are all so quiet. But the men still comment how come the ladies are so capable, will they not scare off men?
Well, if the man gets scared off, then it tells a lot about his self esteem, maturity and confidence, is it not? If he himself has no inclination to better himself, does he expect the whole world to remain stagnant with him? No way!
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