I have been inspired yet again by Ms Match. Her latest post is a rather thought-provoking entry regarding the theory of love. Quite true, is it not, that true love needs passion, intimacy and commitment. How many people nowadays are willing to commit? In most cases, there is passion, there is intimacy, but when it comes to commitment, people shy away.
As the saying goes, what goes around comes around. To some people, they have all the luck in finding someone they are willing to commit to and willing to be committed to them. But not everyone is that lucky. Some are unwilling to commit, then when they find someone else and are willing to commit, they find that the other party is not willing to commit.
There is no right or wrong when it comes to love and relationships. At this stage, I do not think I will ever enter into another relationship if it is not going to be long-term, if the person is not willing to be committed. I no longer have the time nor the youth to continue such games.
But that does not mean we settle for just anyone, which is why I say there is no right or wrong. Just because someone likes you does not mean you have to accept the person; similarly just because you like a person does not mean he / she has to accept you. If you really care for the person, then do not impose and do not turn bitter, just accept and wish the other person happiness with whoever he / she ends up with.
Failures are part and parcel of growth after all. To really let a person grow, he / she should face some adversities in life. Which is why our parents let us fail, although we may curse and swear and think how they must hate us if they let us go through such an experience, but at the end of it all, the experience gained is immeasurable. Rather than they protecting us and sheltering us, then we will never be able to face any adversity.
Yet how many of us take our parents for granted? Then when we have our own children, we start to lament why our children push us away, when we were the ones who pushed our parents away. Just think : do you want your younger generation to treat you with respect and awe, or do you want them to treat you like dirt, summoning you when they need and forgetting about you when they are no longer in need?
Which is why what goes around comes around. How we treat others mirror how others treat us. So if we like consideration and diplomacy in how we are treated, then we should give even more in return.
As the saying goes, what goes around comes around. To some people, they have all the luck in finding someone they are willing to commit to and willing to be committed to them. But not everyone is that lucky. Some are unwilling to commit, then when they find someone else and are willing to commit, they find that the other party is not willing to commit.
There is no right or wrong when it comes to love and relationships. At this stage, I do not think I will ever enter into another relationship if it is not going to be long-term, if the person is not willing to be committed. I no longer have the time nor the youth to continue such games.
But that does not mean we settle for just anyone, which is why I say there is no right or wrong. Just because someone likes you does not mean you have to accept the person; similarly just because you like a person does not mean he / she has to accept you. If you really care for the person, then do not impose and do not turn bitter, just accept and wish the other person happiness with whoever he / she ends up with.
Failures are part and parcel of growth after all. To really let a person grow, he / she should face some adversities in life. Which is why our parents let us fail, although we may curse and swear and think how they must hate us if they let us go through such an experience, but at the end of it all, the experience gained is immeasurable. Rather than they protecting us and sheltering us, then we will never be able to face any adversity.
Yet how many of us take our parents for granted? Then when we have our own children, we start to lament why our children push us away, when we were the ones who pushed our parents away. Just think : do you want your younger generation to treat you with respect and awe, or do you want them to treat you like dirt, summoning you when they need and forgetting about you when they are no longer in need?
Which is why what goes around comes around. How we treat others mirror how others treat us. So if we like consideration and diplomacy in how we are treated, then we should give even more in return.
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Don't do unto others what you do not want others to do onto you.
Hear Hear!
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