After my previous post, it seems that things on the world front are picking up. The currency has risen again after dropping drastically, and oil prices have finally gone down! Good news for everyone! Let's pray and hope all will pick up and the economic situation becomes more stable from now on.
More and more companies (mine included) are adopting work-life balance initiatives, in order to be more family-friendly. Strange that this priviledge only benefits married people with kids. Sumiko Tan's article last Sunday really touches my core.
She states that why does "family" only include the spouse and children? What about parents and siblings? Are they not family too? So does it mean that if a singleton needs to take care of her parents, she is not entitled to emergency leave, because she is single so has no family?
True, is it not? Who are our family? Our parents of course! They are the first family we have, and nothing can ever change that, be it we are single or married. Our parents should be the most important people in our lives, even after we are married and have kids of our own. So I find it really peculiar that work-life balance initiatives only benefit those who are married, but yet nothing is said about our parents or in-laws or grandparents whatsoever.
Is it any wonder why more and more people are not having kids? What is the point if in the end nothing benefits the parents? In any case, another point in her article was quite true. She said that singletons are always left out no matter what. It is like everything is so family-focused that you are considered an outcast if you are single.
The thing is, people may not be single by choice. There are so many people I know who yearn to settle down, but just have not found anyone, or the timing is not right yet. No doubt there are many who choose to be single and not have the burden of getting married and looking after a family, but there are also many out there who are looking yet not finding anyone.
Maybe it all boils down to expectations. Just about fifty years ago, or even as recent as my parents' time, things were much simpler, even for educated folks like my parents. They met each other, they felt they were ok, so they graduated and got hitched. No hassle of wondering if the person was the right one, they just went ahead and then faced whatever problems along the way.
Nowadays people's expectations are higher and higher. When they are with someone, they will wonder if someone else is better, if a better one can come along. They pick on minor things and are never satisfied. They are more unwilling to compromise. I admit that, because I am somewhat like that too.
The thing is there are still many nowadays who make up their minds so easily. For instance, they may say this person is the most suitable, but after a while they may find someone else more suitable and so break up, then go with someone else. It is not so easy as that. There will always be someone better, what matters is whether you are able to accept the person as it comes.
More and more companies (mine included) are adopting work-life balance initiatives, in order to be more family-friendly. Strange that this priviledge only benefits married people with kids. Sumiko Tan's article last Sunday really touches my core.
She states that why does "family" only include the spouse and children? What about parents and siblings? Are they not family too? So does it mean that if a singleton needs to take care of her parents, she is not entitled to emergency leave, because she is single so has no family?
True, is it not? Who are our family? Our parents of course! They are the first family we have, and nothing can ever change that, be it we are single or married. Our parents should be the most important people in our lives, even after we are married and have kids of our own. So I find it really peculiar that work-life balance initiatives only benefit those who are married, but yet nothing is said about our parents or in-laws or grandparents whatsoever.
Is it any wonder why more and more people are not having kids? What is the point if in the end nothing benefits the parents? In any case, another point in her article was quite true. She said that singletons are always left out no matter what. It is like everything is so family-focused that you are considered an outcast if you are single.
The thing is, people may not be single by choice. There are so many people I know who yearn to settle down, but just have not found anyone, or the timing is not right yet. No doubt there are many who choose to be single and not have the burden of getting married and looking after a family, but there are also many out there who are looking yet not finding anyone.
Maybe it all boils down to expectations. Just about fifty years ago, or even as recent as my parents' time, things were much simpler, even for educated folks like my parents. They met each other, they felt they were ok, so they graduated and got hitched. No hassle of wondering if the person was the right one, they just went ahead and then faced whatever problems along the way.
Nowadays people's expectations are higher and higher. When they are with someone, they will wonder if someone else is better, if a better one can come along. They pick on minor things and are never satisfied. They are more unwilling to compromise. I admit that, because I am somewhat like that too.
The thing is there are still many nowadays who make up their minds so easily. For instance, they may say this person is the most suitable, but after a while they may find someone else more suitable and so break up, then go with someone else. It is not so easy as that. There will always be someone better, what matters is whether you are able to accept the person as it comes.
2 comments:
Well, sometimes women are very complicated and I don't blame them either. I am sorry for saying this. I did love someone soo much to the core.
I did everything for her. Some how she did not bother at all and moved on to another guy.
Today, she is still single and came back to me to start all over again.
I just stood by the corner and watched her, why and what happen to her.... may be her age. I am too getting older but..... do I want this kind person....... Hence I left her as she were...
regards
kris
I think you made the right choice. Sometimes people may not know what they want, may not want to commit, but by the time they feel like committing, they realise they have missed the boat. Nothing can be restarted again if you have hurt the person before.
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