My cousin had just found the right guy. In her words, he is like a “male version of her”, ie they like exactly the same things, have exactly the same outlook and views in life, have exactly the same attitude towards certain issues, and they are able to understand each other even without speaking. In other words, she has found her soul mate. In that case, why are they both so reluctant to start a relationship? If they are so made for each other, what is there to hold back?
The first reason is that he is a little younger than her. Now does age really matters when it comes to compatibility? It is not like he is ten or so years younger, just a couple of years or less. The important thing is that he is her match in terms of maturity and intelligence. Older guys may not necessarily be more mature or intelligent, and younger guys may not necessarily be more childish or sheltered.
The second reason is that he is not of the same religion. She is a Christian, but he is a free thinker. Actually in this case the situation is not so bad. If one is a Muslim and the other Christian, then the situation may be a bit more complicated. But in her case, they just need to compromise.
As a Christian, she needs to go to church and be involved in church activities. As long as he understands and does not stop her, that should be alright. If he puts down Christianity and questions her on why she goes to church, then that will be too insensitive on his part; and in this case, she will be better off without him anyway.
But do soul mates really exist? I believe they do to a certain extent. How do you know if the person is your soul mate? I guess soul mates go beyond just mere communication and being compatible with each other. It is more than just having the same interests, values, outlook and attitudes towards life. There should be a connection between two people, being able to understand how each other function without even needing to say a thing.
Many people always go in search of their soul mates. My second ex once told me that I was only his lover, not his soul mate, but as far as I am concerned, so far he was the only one that I could consider my soul mate. Although if we are still together now, that will not be possible anymore as he has changed beyond recognition.
It is a one in a million chance that we are able to find someone we can really connect with. Does it really matter even if he / she does not meet all the criterias one sets out for in a partner? I have fallen for guys who fit my criterias, but in the end the connection was simply not there. Which is more important? Able to connect and be compatible with someone, or someone who can fulfil all you want but you are not even able to communicate with him / her?
The first reason is that he is a little younger than her. Now does age really matters when it comes to compatibility? It is not like he is ten or so years younger, just a couple of years or less. The important thing is that he is her match in terms of maturity and intelligence. Older guys may not necessarily be more mature or intelligent, and younger guys may not necessarily be more childish or sheltered.
The second reason is that he is not of the same religion. She is a Christian, but he is a free thinker. Actually in this case the situation is not so bad. If one is a Muslim and the other Christian, then the situation may be a bit more complicated. But in her case, they just need to compromise.
As a Christian, she needs to go to church and be involved in church activities. As long as he understands and does not stop her, that should be alright. If he puts down Christianity and questions her on why she goes to church, then that will be too insensitive on his part; and in this case, she will be better off without him anyway.
But do soul mates really exist? I believe they do to a certain extent. How do you know if the person is your soul mate? I guess soul mates go beyond just mere communication and being compatible with each other. It is more than just having the same interests, values, outlook and attitudes towards life. There should be a connection between two people, being able to understand how each other function without even needing to say a thing.
Many people always go in search of their soul mates. My second ex once told me that I was only his lover, not his soul mate, but as far as I am concerned, so far he was the only one that I could consider my soul mate. Although if we are still together now, that will not be possible anymore as he has changed beyond recognition.
It is a one in a million chance that we are able to find someone we can really connect with. Does it really matter even if he / she does not meet all the criterias one sets out for in a partner? I have fallen for guys who fit my criterias, but in the end the connection was simply not there. Which is more important? Able to connect and be compatible with someone, or someone who can fulfil all you want but you are not even able to communicate with him / her?
2 comments:
Good question.
I think there isn't such a thing as a perfect fit. Humans aren't jigsaw puzzles.
Yes, true. So I suppose one just have to be with the one whom they can get along the best and able to carve out a future together.
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