Signs you have finally gotten over an unrequited love :
1. You deleted all his / her photos from your computer and mobile phone without feeling any heartache.
2. You deleted all the messages you sent each other, messages which you have saved for quite some time without feeling any heartache.
3. You totally stop initiating conversation.
4. You start to realise that other people are more attractive and more worth your time.
5. You think back and wonder how in the world you fell for this person in the first place.
6. You are happy and relieved because those agonising days of giving and caring with the frustrations and misery of non-acceptance and non-reciprocation are over!
7. You stop taking an interest in his / her life.
8. You do not feel anything even when you see him / her online or in person.
And the ONE main thing that determines you have finally let go :
9. You do not think about him / her anymore and whatever he / she does does not affect you in whatever way.
I can close this chapter of my life at last .... and I am really happy closing it! Good riddance!
1. You deleted all his / her photos from your computer and mobile phone without feeling any heartache.
2. You deleted all the messages you sent each other, messages which you have saved for quite some time without feeling any heartache.
3. You totally stop initiating conversation.
4. You start to realise that other people are more attractive and more worth your time.
5. You think back and wonder how in the world you fell for this person in the first place.
6. You are happy and relieved because those agonising days of giving and caring with the frustrations and misery of non-acceptance and non-reciprocation are over!
7. You stop taking an interest in his / her life.
8. You do not feel anything even when you see him / her online or in person.
And the ONE main thing that determines you have finally let go :
9. You do not think about him / her anymore and whatever he / she does does not affect you in whatever way.
I can close this chapter of my life at last .... and I am really happy closing it! Good riddance!
5 comments:
Not to argue for the sake of arguing per se. But if you still find the need to write an article just specially to commemorate this unrequited love of yours, some doubt will inevitably arise.
Are you sure you've finally gotten over him?! <- rhetorically speaking, that is.
Okay, here they are some doubts that I feel.
Re: point no.1 & no.2
You truly sealed the chapter? Then you should not delete his photos or messages from your computer or handphone unless it is for the purpose of recovering some extra space.
Re: point no.3
What's wrong with initiating conversation? Friends do that all the time. You meant to say that you no longer consider him as your friend? So the guy had been cast into the category of unrequited love and let's-just-be-friends thing would not apply for him? From what you described about him in the past, you may have lost a very good friend. Your loss.
Re: point no.4
You make a rather unfair comparison. It's always easy to zoom in someone's weakness and zoom out someone's strength when you're hurt. If you've truly gotten over him, you would not even find a need to use him as a benchmark for comparison to other guys.
Re: point no.5
This is what you should do instead: you think back & realize that you've a nice female friend that may have suited him better. You make a plan to introduce her to him.
Re: point no.6
You feel a slight pang of embarrassment that you ever hoped that your giving & caring would be reciprocated by him. You learn that love is not that simple.
Re: point no.7
Yet another drastic decision. :-\ Bye-bye friendship. Trash it to the recycle bin & empty it immediately, huh?
Re: point no.8
Not even that cozy feeling that brings a grin or a smile to one's face when one meets another friend? Oh wait, I forgot he's no longer your friend.
Re: point no.9
Which this article of yours had succinctly contradicted itself.
Hmmm... very interesting points you brought up. THink I need to explain further.
Point 1 & 2 : I deleted everything cos I really needed space to store other more meaningful messages my friends sent me, and I deleted the photos from my phone so people will not misunderstand.
Point 3 : We still do talk to each other, but not so much anymore. I'm past the stage where everytime I see him I must talk to him. Now we only talk only if there are really common things to talk about.
Point 4 : I'm not comparing him to anyone or using him as a benchmark as comparison to anyone else. There are people who are truly better.
Point 5 : Been there, tried that, was told no need.
Point 6 : Of course I know love is not that simple, which is why I'm giving him up to pursue his own happiness.
Point 7 : I still know what he's up to, except I stop trying to find out exactly what he's doing everyday or every hour or what activities he's with or who he's out with. As in I stop being so involved.
Point 8 : My concept of " dun feel anything" means there is no rush of excitement or anticipation anymore. Just a normal feeling that my friend is around, not the gush of love or overwhlming loving feeling. And yes, he is still my friend.
Point 9 : He is now jsut a friend, so I dun think about him in that way anymore and even if he chose not to reply me or what not, that does not affect me cos the strong feeling is no longer there.
Hope I've made myself clearer this time.
paige_ly@yahoo.com
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碰上了不快乐吧! 承受了, 闷完了, 就回家...被窝中可得到天下!
再不要顾及谁没本领...被窝中不怕变化...!
要记得快乐吧! :)
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Paige : Thanks, inspiring indeed. Although you're testing my Chinese to the fullest....
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