Do fairy tales exist, in this world where I live? As much as I wanted to remain simple and idealistic, sad to say, many a times one just has to be practical. But fairy tales still do exist, not to me (for now), but to people I know. For instance, it was so dreamy how one of my cousins met her husband.
And now for my friend too. She is my age, and was being disillusioned over the kind of men she had been meeting (why does this sound so familiar?). She registered herself on dating agencies and websites, attended social events and networking groups, all in the hope of meeting someone, but she never did meet the right people, as those she had come across simply do not catch her fancy.
Mind you, her expectations are high. She had a Masters from an Ivy League school, had worked in England, Australia and America and now rather high-ranking in a multinational corporation here. She has a performance diploma in both piano and violin, used to be a member of the National Youth Orchestra. She loves travelling, craves for an exciting life, but at the same time remains grounded with her roots.
So the kind of man she was looking for must be intellectually and culturally her equal or better. He must be family-oriented, responsible, mature, interesting, well-travelled, yet not a mummy’s boy. He must also be someone chivalrous, gentlemanly and romantic. Perhaps that is why she never did find the right person. And people still say my expectations are high.
Anyway, she was on the verge of giving up. She was all prepared to remain single for life, until she happened to comment on one of the threads of one of the online forums which she read. A few days later, she saw that a guy had commented on her comment, and she was struck by how deep his insight was. So she replied to his comment, and he replied to hers, and before you know it, they started dating and now they are getting married.
From the time they first got to know each other to now, it had only been nine months. They were officially together only about five months. Out of curiosity, I asked her if the guy met all her criteria.
Her answer? “Yes, he is everything I ask for intellectually and culturally. I can talk to him as an equal and it is as if we share an unspoken connection. It is not so much as whether he can fulfill everything I set out, but whether we can get along and have a future together.”
Is that not just so sweet and touching? I guess what is important is not to give up, despite how many false starts and disappointments, because one really never knows when destiny will strike. Cupid shoots his arrow at the oddest and most unexpected moments. Things simply happen out of the blue without anyone’s knowledge. And that itself is a fairy tale.
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