I have just become a volunteer to this pro-Christian group that spreads the word of abstinence. I read this article in one of the female magazines that features a lobbyist whose work involves educating children and adults on the consequences of pre-marital sex. Since the contact is there, I decided to sign up as a volunteer. I believe it is good to do something useful and what I believe in at the same time.
The article states that kids nowadays think it is no big deal to have sex even at a young age. However the lobbyist said it is to do with education. Parents think this subject is taboo and will not want to discuss things like this with the children. Thus their children often get subjected to peer pressure and influence, and will think that since everyone is doing it, why not? But even if everyone is doing something which you know is wrong, it is your choice whether you want to follow. Why must one follow blindly to what others do?
She also said her job is to make kids aware of the consequences of casual sex. No doubt there are protections and contraceptives all over, but truth be told, young kids are still not fully aware of how to protect themselves. For instance, if a girl does not want to get pregnant, the Pill has to be taken twenty-four hours in advance for it to be effective. Taking the Pill just before doing the act will not work. And as far as I know, guys will still not like to use the rubber as they think it will decrease the effect. Thus you have more and more young kids getting AIDS and unwanted pregnancies. And normally the girls end up heartbroken because the boys may just dump them after realising they are pregnant. It is true all she said. I have seen how heart-broken my friends were when they gave themselves to the guys. And it seemed that once the guy succeeded in taking away the girl's chastity, he somehow would not treat her as well as before. Even for adults who are supposed to be more mature and in control of their feelings and emotions, yet they still take things so hard, can one imagine just how much more messed-up the poor kids will be?
So the lady's job is to help counsel and make them fully aware of the responsibility in having sex. She says that to prevent all these heartaches and hurts and emotional trauma, abstaining until the wedding night is still the best solution, which I fully agree! The act of making love is more than just having sex; it is a conection between two people truly in love and willing to take responsibility for each other. It is meaningless to just do it with anyone yet with no strings attached because you take the specialness and uniqueness out of it. So to do it only with the one special person who is going to share your life is the best gift both can give each other. And I truly believe it is worth waiting for that day to come.
The article states that kids nowadays think it is no big deal to have sex even at a young age. However the lobbyist said it is to do with education. Parents think this subject is taboo and will not want to discuss things like this with the children. Thus their children often get subjected to peer pressure and influence, and will think that since everyone is doing it, why not? But even if everyone is doing something which you know is wrong, it is your choice whether you want to follow. Why must one follow blindly to what others do?
She also said her job is to make kids aware of the consequences of casual sex. No doubt there are protections and contraceptives all over, but truth be told, young kids are still not fully aware of how to protect themselves. For instance, if a girl does not want to get pregnant, the Pill has to be taken twenty-four hours in advance for it to be effective. Taking the Pill just before doing the act will not work. And as far as I know, guys will still not like to use the rubber as they think it will decrease the effect. Thus you have more and more young kids getting AIDS and unwanted pregnancies. And normally the girls end up heartbroken because the boys may just dump them after realising they are pregnant. It is true all she said. I have seen how heart-broken my friends were when they gave themselves to the guys. And it seemed that once the guy succeeded in taking away the girl's chastity, he somehow would not treat her as well as before. Even for adults who are supposed to be more mature and in control of their feelings and emotions, yet they still take things so hard, can one imagine just how much more messed-up the poor kids will be?
So the lady's job is to help counsel and make them fully aware of the responsibility in having sex. She says that to prevent all these heartaches and hurts and emotional trauma, abstaining until the wedding night is still the best solution, which I fully agree! The act of making love is more than just having sex; it is a conection between two people truly in love and willing to take responsibility for each other. It is meaningless to just do it with anyone yet with no strings attached because you take the specialness and uniqueness out of it. So to do it only with the one special person who is going to share your life is the best gift both can give each other. And I truly believe it is worth waiting for that day to come.
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Good topic but just a general feedback ya. I felt that those who wants to get involved need to be a virgin. Then they are able to counsel from the heart of experiences of abstaining lor.
For those who had sex before, then it is unfair to be counselling others when the person had already experience the enjoyment of sex with others. Then it seems to be not fair to those who they counsel ya.
That is my opinion onli lah......
The lobbyist herself was a virgin before she got married. But there are some volunteers who are not. Whether they found the act enjoyable or not, no one would know, but I believe they are in a better position to counsel because they have made the mistake and would know exactly how terrible the traumatic experience was, so they woould be in a better position to understand the situation around and to help others learn from mistakes too.
Okie I understand.....but for me, I would not be qualitied ya, cause I think it is good to gain some "love" experiences before making a choice, just like having a few relationships before deciding which is the one that you really like to commit to....again that's my views
That's like saying only people who had never done drugs before should do anti-drugs counselling.
With the divorce rate nowadays, there's no guarantee too that giving it to a husband will guarantee eternal marriage. As for 'not treating the gal as well as before', it happens in many relationships, regardless of the gal being virgin or not beforehand. "Taking for granted" is, unfortunately, a pretty common human trait.
Shakespeare, all I can say is: "Good luck, you're facing a really uphill battle." You want to support your cause, that's good. But please do not support it based on wrong reasons.
Ole Wolvie : I'm not supporting it for any wrong reasons. I truly feel its important to educate the young on the responsibilities and consequences of "safe sex".
Well if you can teach the people, "safe sex" before marriage then that will be interesting. The issue of unsafe sex practises is that you will get pregnant and/or get HIV or other sexual diseases.
Anyway, whether married or not, if you practise unsafe sex, you will still get unfound diseases if you dont follow the guidelines and the rules of do's and dont' ya....
Apparently u don't know the meaning of "abstinence". Safe sex is still not abstinence.
There is one sentence that you have strucked me. "The article states that kids nowadays think it is no big deal to have sex even at a young age. "
Yes, there is a slight line of difference between abstinence and being taboo about the whole sex topic. You see, when parents go mum about these topics, temptation is the sweetest fruit. It becomes a way how a teenager breaks that taboo and boast to his peers that he is not bounded by anything.
However, if we were to practice abstinence, as in being open about the subject sex and its consequences, be it good or bad, then only it will work.
Goy : I fully agree with you. Parents should be the first hand to educate kids on this subject to make them able to understand it better.
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