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Sunday, September 11, 2005

Love At First Sight?

My mum is back, with my dad to follow on Thursday. It is a relief to have her back, although my brother said it is the end of freedom for him. She bought me a Louis Vutton bag and a lot of DVDs of my favourite shows, like Batman Begins (Yeah! Can drool at Christian Bale in his batsuit anytime I like now!), Mr and Mrs Smith (Brad Pitt! Brad Pitt!), War of the Worlds (Tom Cruise!), Sin City and the new animated feature, March of the Penguins (which I have not seen but heard raving reviews about it). My mum bought a lot of Korean period dramas for herself ever since the highly-acclaimed Korean period drama "Jewel In the Palace". I rather have my "Winter Sonata" anytime, contemporary, modern, beautiful sceneries, first love and true love.

My mum bought a lot of clothes back. I was salivating over what she was telling me - that clothes in China are ten times nicer than what we have in Singapore, but at only one-tenth of the price. She bought a track suit (T-shirt, pants and jacket) for only RMB50 (equivalent to S$10) for the whole set, and an executive suit (skirt, jacket and pants) for RMB200 (equivalent to S$50). Goodness, I can never find even part of a suit that cost only $50 here! She bought a cheongsam top which she says can be worn for dinners and functions. I remarked that the top will make her look too middle-aged, with which she retorted that she already has two children of marriageable age, and her daughter already can be married off long ago, so how young can she be? Riiiiigght......

Anyway I was reading an article on last week's Sunday Times on true accounts of "love at first sight". Two couples were interviewed on how they actually fell for their partners the moment they saw them, and got hitched less than a year later. Sometimes I wonder if love at first sight really exists? How come I have never experienced that? But I do know of friends who did fell in love at first sight. My friend who got attached recently fell for his girlfriend instantly and apparently the feeling was mutual as they started off just five days later. Another friend fell for his girlfriend instantly (wife now actually) just a few days after he ended his previous relationship. My ex-colleague's daughter fell for a guy the moment she met him and they got hitched just after three months.

Contrary to popular belief, the person need not be drop-dead gorgeous to enable someone to fall for him / her at first sight. However, it just so happens that for the guy to fall for a girl at first sight, the girl is normally pretty attractive. Why is that always this case? Is that why no decent guy will ever fall for me at first sight? Yet a guy need not be attractive for the girl to notice him. He just need to have the X-factor, which I cannot really say what since different girls look for different things. But I guess a smile will do for most people. And a sense of humour (for my case). How do you think I get such a good impression of that particular person just after meeting him? He has a brilliant smile and a witty sense of humour. In fact, that was how I noticed my ex-boyfriends too - their smiles and wittiness. But the love does not come until later, although normally once I get a good first impression of a guy, chances are I will grow to like him very much.

When you ask people why they are so sure they love this person just after a glance, most people will not be able to answer. It is not because they are dumb, but because cupid strikes when you least expect it. When you really fall for someone, there is no reason to love a person. You know you just do. Just like when I was asked why I loved that guy, I had no answer too. I knew I just loved him, for no reason at all. If you need even a reason to love someone, then that is not true love already.

2 comments:

Connie and Rob said...

I am just not sure about "Love at First Sight". Isn't it possible that you could find someone very attractive upon sight (feel the spark) and then talk to them...then nothing!

Personality will always win over looks. You just can't put that person in a chair and say sit and look pretty. Eventually they are going to have to talk and that is when things can get ugly.

Your beauty is in the inside and outside!!!!!
Connie

shakespeareheroine said...

Thank you very much! :-)

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