The 18th century dramatist William Congreve once said, "Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, Nor hell a fury like a woman scorned." However, events of recent years proved how untrue this statement is. Men do turn sour after being dumped.
So far the most famous woman who killed due to love was Mimi Wong, the first woman in the history of independant Singapore to be hanged for murder. She was a cabaret queen (the modern lounge hostess) who had an affair with a Japanese engineer. He ended the affair when his family came over to join him but she refused to let go. To pacify her and prevent harm to his family, he introduced her to his wife and kids. But when he declared that he would never leave his wife, she threatened to kill her. So she and her ex-husband went to his house one night when he was at work. She told the wife that she had brought a plumber to repair her leaky bath tub, then both she and her ex-husband killed her. The judge's verdict was that she knew what she was doing and planned the murder, with her ex-husband as accomplice. There was premeditation so both were sentenced to death.
Recently, there was a case of a former air-stewardess who threw her lover's four-year-old daughter down from his flat, killing the girl in the process, all because her lover would not leave his wife. In my opinion, someone of her stature could do much better than hook up with a middle-aged, uneducated rag-and-bone man. But love do make people do crazy things, although murdering and harming family members are too extreme and should not be tolerated. I just feel so sad for the little girl to be so innocently involved.
But are only women capable of love crimes? Of course not! Just three years back, there was the famous case of Anthony Ler who commissioned a teenager to kill his then-wife (still his wife as they had not officially divorced). He was hanged for that (served him right!) but he ruined a young man's life just like that. The teenager was too young to be hanged so he was sentenced to life imprisonment and kept at the President's pleasure. And his daughter became an orphan. Imagine how one man's greed and bitterness can ruin so many people's lives.
Few months ago, there was a factory supervisor suspected of killing his subordinate lover and chopped her body into pieces before dumping them into the Kallang River. Just today, there was another case where a middle-aged man asked three teenagers to kill his ex-girlfriend. Luckily she escaped unscathed. But the three youths were arrested for attempted murder and possession of dangerous weapons.
Must people resort to these? So what if you get dumped? No big deal! If such an extremely emotional person like me can live with all the pain and suffer silently, then why must others kill or harm for love? If you really love someone, then let him / her go. It is not love if the loved one and all his / her loved ones are harmed as a result.
When my best friend dumped that perfect ex-boyfriend, he camped below her house and campus to wait to see her and called me everyday to ask me to talk to her, until her mother had to tell him to leave her alone so she could concentrate on her final year. I have also been through the stage where I begged the guy to take me back, not once but thrice. But what is the use of all these? I have learnt that love ends not because you are not good, but to pave the way for a better one. My subsequent guys are better than the previous ones, thus I believe someone even better will come along. I hope people can come to their senses and stop doing things that will ruin their own and other's lives.
So far the most famous woman who killed due to love was Mimi Wong, the first woman in the history of independant Singapore to be hanged for murder. She was a cabaret queen (the modern lounge hostess) who had an affair with a Japanese engineer. He ended the affair when his family came over to join him but she refused to let go. To pacify her and prevent harm to his family, he introduced her to his wife and kids. But when he declared that he would never leave his wife, she threatened to kill her. So she and her ex-husband went to his house one night when he was at work. She told the wife that she had brought a plumber to repair her leaky bath tub, then both she and her ex-husband killed her. The judge's verdict was that she knew what she was doing and planned the murder, with her ex-husband as accomplice. There was premeditation so both were sentenced to death.
Recently, there was a case of a former air-stewardess who threw her lover's four-year-old daughter down from his flat, killing the girl in the process, all because her lover would not leave his wife. In my opinion, someone of her stature could do much better than hook up with a middle-aged, uneducated rag-and-bone man. But love do make people do crazy things, although murdering and harming family members are too extreme and should not be tolerated. I just feel so sad for the little girl to be so innocently involved.
But are only women capable of love crimes? Of course not! Just three years back, there was the famous case of Anthony Ler who commissioned a teenager to kill his then-wife (still his wife as they had not officially divorced). He was hanged for that (served him right!) but he ruined a young man's life just like that. The teenager was too young to be hanged so he was sentenced to life imprisonment and kept at the President's pleasure. And his daughter became an orphan. Imagine how one man's greed and bitterness can ruin so many people's lives.
Few months ago, there was a factory supervisor suspected of killing his subordinate lover and chopped her body into pieces before dumping them into the Kallang River. Just today, there was another case where a middle-aged man asked three teenagers to kill his ex-girlfriend. Luckily she escaped unscathed. But the three youths were arrested for attempted murder and possession of dangerous weapons.
Must people resort to these? So what if you get dumped? No big deal! If such an extremely emotional person like me can live with all the pain and suffer silently, then why must others kill or harm for love? If you really love someone, then let him / her go. It is not love if the loved one and all his / her loved ones are harmed as a result.
When my best friend dumped that perfect ex-boyfriend, he camped below her house and campus to wait to see her and called me everyday to ask me to talk to her, until her mother had to tell him to leave her alone so she could concentrate on her final year. I have also been through the stage where I begged the guy to take me back, not once but thrice. But what is the use of all these? I have learnt that love ends not because you are not good, but to pave the way for a better one. My subsequent guys are better than the previous ones, thus I believe someone even better will come along. I hope people can come to their senses and stop doing things that will ruin their own and other's lives.
5 comments:
I don't think people get into 'crime of passion' due to love. More like due to posessiveness. "If I can't have it no one else shall" kind of mindset.
Maybe. But sometimes love turned to hatred is the worst feeling to be had, because it will make the person turn so bitter that he / she may even end up killing the "loved" one.
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I hope people can come to their senses and stop doing things that will ruin their own and other's lives.
Perhaps we're indeed living in Wonderland and to echo what the Cat said: "We're all mad here. I'm mad. You're mad."
The degree of sanity may then just depend on how (less) unbalanced someone is.
Perhaps you are right. But sometimes it is good to be as whacky as the Mad Hatter, so one can just live ife without any worries and frustrations. Then maybe there will not be so many crimes and sad cases around.
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