My friend just knocked some sense into me. He said that true love is unconditional and should not be based on reciprocation. If I really love a person, it does not matter if he knows how much I have done for him. What matters is he is happy with the result. He actually asked me if I am calculating everything I am doing for a particular someone. Upon reflection, I guess he is right - I do not need to calculate the things I do for anyone.
Which means I am still in dire need of love lessons. I always thought if I really like someone, I will do everything I can for the person. Maybe that was why none of my relationships work out. I could do so much but probably all in vain as I never did analyse the situation properly. Now I have been told that I have not been doing enough as what I have been doing is what any normal friend will do. Thus I have not done enough to make him think of me more. Food for thought here.
I must admit I am a little lost out here. What constitutes doing enough or more so that the person will think of you more? What constitutes communication and heart-to-heart talking on deeper, higher level issues? And what constitutes sensing a person's emotion? What are things we can talk about besides normal superficial conversations? I never view things this way before. I am really in dire need of sound advice. I will really appreciate a little help here.
I must really thank my friend for waking me up regarding this issue. If anything, he helped me see what I have been doing wrong and nip things in the bud before it is too late to salvage.
Which means I am still in dire need of love lessons. I always thought if I really like someone, I will do everything I can for the person. Maybe that was why none of my relationships work out. I could do so much but probably all in vain as I never did analyse the situation properly. Now I have been told that I have not been doing enough as what I have been doing is what any normal friend will do. Thus I have not done enough to make him think of me more. Food for thought here.
I must admit I am a little lost out here. What constitutes doing enough or more so that the person will think of you more? What constitutes communication and heart-to-heart talking on deeper, higher level issues? And what constitutes sensing a person's emotion? What are things we can talk about besides normal superficial conversations? I never view things this way before. I am really in dire need of sound advice. I will really appreciate a little help here.
I must really thank my friend for waking me up regarding this issue. If anything, he helped me see what I have been doing wrong and nip things in the bud before it is too late to salvage.
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if you truly understand about the non-reciprocal nature of true love, you won't have to ask that first question of the third paragraph.
That is why I am asking as I guess I still do not understand fully. But I believe it is rather hard for others to explain to me as I just need to follow what my heart tells me to do and feel from within me what is the right thing. I do not know if I am even making sense at all. Forgive me if I am not, still groggy so cannot really think properly.
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